Bed-Head

It is inevitable when you get into a relationship you become quite comfortable and the night time routine of trying to look glamorous whilst half drooling and snoring goes out the window. Not for a long time have I spent time round a guys house and had to think how my hair is going to be like whilst sleeping. That sounds ridiculous, who cares when you’re asleep what your hair looks like. However for me my hair is frizzy and dry. My night time routine consists of French plaiting my hair and putting on a silk bonnet. However when I started to sleep round my boyfriend’s house the dilemma struck me, do I want to look like a milk maid or look descent and look like feral child in the morning. I decided the former, except I replaced the silk bonnet with a rather nice head scarf I had, so I thought. I felt happy I had come to a solution, I also wore u-part wig some days and my hair was in braids so I could take off the wig and put on my head scarf. Perfect. Unbeknownst to me, this was causing utter confusing to my partner and I can admit I was setting myself up for his comments. One night he said to me, having crept into bed with a head scarf on. ‘You look like a boy’. I thought ‘what?’  But I didn’t think about it and fell asleep. A few weeks later we were speaking and he said ‘I don’t get why you have that head scarf on at night, it looks ghetto yet you look lovely during the day’. I was a bit annoyed, what does it matter what I look like at night. But then I started to think, have I got too comfortable? Was I letting him too much into my behind the scenes? I thought maybe I was, I did not want my man to be less attracted to me when he closes his eyes and wakes up to what he calls ‘a boy’.

I thought to myself how far am I willing to shift, should I really change my routine for a man? Or am I being stubborn because I don’t want to conform to what he says. I decided to meet him half way, the best option in most cases. I would re do the way I wear my scarf and sometimes I did not wear one, opting for a high bun with a more moisturized head. The latter was not too beneficial for my hair, so why choose between your man and your hair. But unless you’re in a long term relationship you tend to really want to keep that fire, I want him to smile waking up to me, not to look horrified. But maybe there’s too much pressure on women to look how celebrities depict themselves looking quite glam ‘just’ before bed.

 
 

When in fact I’m sure they are just like you and me.

So why bother stressing?  The hair conscious shouldn’t feel like the bedroom is yet another platform to impress, yes having instagram and other selfie obsessed social networks do depict an unrealistic standard for women. The best way to deal with the ever rising narcissistic society is not to focus on filter populated or celebrity photos but to get on with having a good night’s sleep. We all going to probably drool or talk or kick our partners in our sleep so there is no point losing sleep on how we look like when we sleep unless we are perhaps a celebrity with a snapper happy husband. We all should be sleeping beaitys to our partners hair bonnet or without.